There's always one...
I told our friend Sally today. It is her birthday (29 today!) so I rang to wish her well, and it seemed like a good time.
Her reaction was.... mixed. She said congratulations, of course, coz that's what you do, but I know she's not a fan of kids, so her reservations didn't surprise me. And she wins the prize for the first person to ask....
"Was it planned?"
It really made me smile. It's a question I've wanted to ask people loads of times in the past, but always thought it might be considered rude (generally when people aren't married - that sounds old-fashioned, but there's an assumption when people are married that it's less of a big deal, commitment-wise, I guess).
I would never expect that to worry Sal.
I also got the sense that she was a little disappointed - ANOTHER set of friends with baby-baggage, who won't be able to come and play anymore. We tried to re-assure her that wouldn't be the case, and I think re-assure ourselves at the same time.
I think that you may have got Sally wrong. I don't know what you thought my reaction was, but it was tinged with a little sadness that it wasn't me, and jealously (in the nicest possible way.) You see no matter what women say, they do have biological clocks! (Although they will never admit it!)
Ann defintely got me wrong! really really not jealous!!!! and my biological clock is looking forward to the menopause, if it's working at all! I certainly didn't mean to come across as disappointed but having been my flatmate for 3 years Warren does know me rather well and I like to think I'm up front and honest with no unspoken thoughts to close friends, but I have to add that Steve has hardly contacted me at all since entering the parent club!
and don't tell the world I'm 29! then they'll know what the next one is!